Understanding BDSM

Understanding BDSM

What Does BDSM Stand For?

Coined in the 1990’s by a group of sexual revolutionaries who weren’t afraid to admit their kink, BDSM is a relatively modern-day concept with a huge following. The acronym stands for “Bondage, Dominance, Sadism and Masochism,” but the practices are so wide-ranging that it’s sometimes hard to put a lid on the exact definition.

Each part of the BDSM puzzle has its own special meaning, with individualized practices and specific tools used in all of them to accomplish a similar goal. And while BDSM is commonly associated with extreme pain and perversion, many people engage in a more gentle, rudimentary form every time they have sex with a blindfold. Here are how the letters of BDSM are defined (as they relate to sexual activity):

  • B: Bondage – A game of being someone’s physical, mental or emotional slave for the purposes of sexual gratification for one or more partners.
  • D: Dominance – A game of overriding the slave in bondage for sexual or psychological satisfaction.
  • S: Sadism – A game of deriving sexual pleasure from inflicting or experiencing pain, suffering or humiliation with a partner.
  • M: Masochism – A game of deriving sexual pleasure from giving or receiving anything but traditional stimulation.

Sadomasochism is commonly referred to as a combination of the last two letters of BDSM, since the original abbreviation looked more like “B/D, S/M” than “BDSM.” Either way, there are now millions of followers and the practice has even become elevated to the status of a lifestyle for some.

Is BDSM Safe?

The only unsafe thing about BDSM is doing it wrong, but that goes for anything in the entire world. Proper execution of bondage/dominance and/or sadomasochistic practices is completely harmless. As long as there’s open communication between the participants, the right tools are used and a safe word has been agreed upon, nothing bad can happen (unless you want it to).

Why Do People Like BDSM?

For many, the thought of BDSM is scary and intimidating. The concept of deriving pleasure from experiencing or delivering pain seems far-fetched to some. But for the millions of BDSM enthusiasts around the world, there’s nothing better than pushing the human mind and body to its brink. That’s right, BDSM is about more than just the physical.

People like participating in BDSM games because they break down inhibitions and strengthen the bonds of trust and intimacy between partners. When performed correctly (and with proper etiquette), bondage and dominance play can be amazingly satisfying. In fact, most folks who engage in BDSM say that it helps them achieve harder and longer-lasting orgasms than traditional sex.

And because BDSM encompasses so many different habits, practices and lifestyles, it’s one of the most tailor-made activities on the planet. People can go from gentle to intense and back again without ever leaving the subculture’s reach. BDSM has become so favored by the people, in fact, that it’s now openly talked about and promoted in the mainstream media.

Are There Any Special Skills or Tools Required for BDSM?

Most BDSM games require a few fundamental skills and a basic level of trust between partners. On top of that, many of the activities involved in bondage, dominance, and sadomasochism need supportive equipment to get the job done. Hand and ankle restraints, pain and pleasure devices, humiliation tools, and bondage accessories are commonly used by participants and pretty much mandatory in most cases.

Some of the most frequently used BDSM tools include but are not at all limited to the following:

  • Ball gags
  • Whips, paddles and floggers
  • Ropes, ribbons and chains
  • Sex swings
  • Sex slings
  • Masks
  • Blindfolds
  • Chastity devices
  • Insertable sex toys
  • Temperature play products
  • Electrostimulation (e-stim) tools

Each of those categories has about a dozen subcategories, which means the average person could spend an entire day exploring the possibilities.

BSDM: An Overview

Using a wide variety of tools and techniques, people from all over the world are experiencing intense levels of sexual pleasure through bondage, dominance, sadism and masochism roleplaying games, or BDSM. This relatively new practice has developed into a respectable subculture with its own unique brand of sex toys and equipment. With proper use and a substantial education on the subject, even newbies can enjoy all that BDSM has to offer.

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